Of course, we all love our kids, but do they know that?
Although we all as parents do a lot of things because we love our children and we want the best for them, but the problem is kids doesn’t receive these actions as a sign of love, they receive them as a controlling action from the parents
The main problem here is that the parents think we do not need to tell our kids that we love them of course we do, and they should know that.
Even if you say I love you to your kids all the time they might still do not feel it because you don’t say it the way they can feel it
There are different ways to express your love to your kids, but you have to choose the right way with the right person.
Gary Chapman the author of the five love languages book said “Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.” So you have to know what to do and how you do it
There are 5 ways to say I love you to your kid
Spending time with your kids means a lot for them, it means that you love talking to them or playing with them and also it will help you to make very good memories
To create an effective quality time u need to spend at least 15 min per day with your full attention with your kids
We all love gift it means that you made a lot of effort to think of a suitable gift for your kid, and you spend a lot of time and money to bring it. Gifts mean that you think of your kid even if they are not with you
It does not matter how much the gift cost? Or how big it is? What really matters is how your kids will feel when you give it to them
It`s the most powerful language of love, you can use it anytime, anywhere. It does not cost any money or take any effort. All you need to do is to hug your kid
“Physical touch, specifically cuddling, releases Oxycontin, the feel-good hormone that makes you feel like nothing can hurt you,” says Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist, and relationship coach
Act of service
It means that you need to do more than just talking, you need to help and support your kids in their daily struggles
But at the same time, it does not mean that you do everything for them just a little help would be enough
Words of Affirmation
You just need to use words more often and express your love to your kid
you can try “you mean a lot to me” or “I like spending time with you ” or just say ” i love you ”
which way should I use it?
you can use all of the 5 ways but of course, your kid will prefer one or two more than the others so you can focus on it, and also use the other ways
if you want to know which way do your kids prefer you can take this quiz